Every Day Should Be Valentine’s Day
Published February 11th, 2008
Imagine you looked on your commercial calendar and there was no little caption about Valentine’s Day on February 14th–what would you do? Nothing? Would you forget, and receive angry and hurt looks from your significant other? What if, instead, you lived your life making the other person feel special every single day?
I think that sometimes there’s a lot of hurt feelings, loneliness, and emotional isolation on this day regardless of whether you are in a loving relationship or not. We place an awful lot of pressure on ourselves and the people in our lives to have this perfect image, give the perfect gift, and create the perfect feeling all for one day. That’s not a very nice thing to do to your spirit or that of someone you love.
The whole idea behind this day isn’t supposed to be about flowers, or chocolate, or other things that you want to give or receive–it’s about showing love and appreciation. Why do you need a special day to do that? You don’t.
Break with tradition and commercial reminders. Really sit down and think about what you would like for yourself, or what the other person in your life means to you, and do something thoughtful and loving today itself–don’t wait for the 14th of February. Even if you are not in a romantic relationship right now, there is nothing wrong with showing yourself some love and appreciation.
We never know what could happen: Life can come, be taken away, or change in an instant. If you love yourself, or someone else–tell them. Even if you think they know, you can never tell them enough. People often don’t express their love or show it because they think the other person knows. Unfortunately, with time, busy schedules, and life getting in the way, people can feel taken for granted–despite our good intentions.
I’m not even just talking about romantic love: The friends, family, and animals that fill, enrich, and support your life deserve to be recognized too. Don’t wait – Give them a hug, make plans to do something, or just tell them how thankful you are for them being in your life. I can almost guarantee, the surprise and good feelings this will give them is better than any flowers or candy you can find.
If you are scared to say words like “I love you”, or “I appreciate you” out loud (even though they will probably be well received), here are some ideas to express yourself on a regular basis:
- Put a note in their lunch–even if it’s just to tell them that you can’t wait to see them tonight
- Let them sleep in and make them breakfast in bed
- Send them a e-card for no reason
- Leave them a note for when they come home from work
- Make them a meal
- Surprise them by taking them to do something that they really love
- Clean off their car for them
- Remind them of a special memory from your past together
- Give them a hug for no reason at all
- Call them just to tell them you were thinking about them and miss them
- Tell them you love them before they leave the house every time, and tell them to drive carefully
Life is short, and eventually all good things must come to an end, so don’t waste time thinking things but not doing. Take a few precious seconds every day to give love and enjoy life. You’ll soon see that it doesn’t even take up very much, time, money, or effort–all excuses we make for not doing things. The rewards will be something you can never put a price on.
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